Grandparents Children Fund (GCF)

Being an instant parent, Juli and I has yet to have the right 'infrastructure' and 'institutions' to raise Rara in our place. For one, Juli can not walk away from her job. Her boss asks her to stay until the end of the year, although she can negotiate a flexible working hours.

For some reasons, we don't really fancy having a babysitter or nanny to take care of Rara while both of us going to the office. We also don't fancy having a maid in our house. It's a matter of privacy, but also our house is too small so we don't have an extra room for our maid or babysitter. We are thinking of having a part-time housekeeper. So she can help taking care of our house during the day while Juli can focus on Rara. Then in the evening when I'm back from work, the housekeeper doesn't have to stay.

(In Indonesia, as well as many Asian countries, and perhaps also in greater Latin America - that includes Southern California - it is common even for a middle income family to have a full time maid.)

Anyway, we still have to wait until Juli finally resigns from her job. So the most urgent thing is to find the short-term solution. The good thing in Indonesia is, in the absence of the formal market of childcare, we can rely on our 'social capital': the extended family. Rara's grandparents (my mom and dad) enthusiastically offer to 'host' Rara. She is her first granddaughter; the last time she took care of a baby was 20+ years ago. There are also my little sister and sister-in-law who are willing to be the susbtitute moms for her.

So the temporary solution is Rara stays in Bintaro - a suburb around 30 minutes from Jakarta. Juli and I will commute between Central Jakarta and Bintaro. For 3 days in a week we stay in our small house in Benhil, and spend another four days in Bintaro.

But there is always the positive and negative side of it. My family are very eager - sometimes too eager - to take care of Rara. Somehow they are reluctant to let Rara go and stay with us in due time. We are also concerned that the 'Grandparents Childcare System' can make her a spoilt baby. There are also some different opinions about how to raise a baby. For example, should she wear a babypants, or just a traditional pampers (popok)? Should she wear earrings or not? And so forth.

Of course, if we should choose between Rara becoming a neglected child vs. having excessive attentions, we would choose the latter. The consequence is Rara will be an 'experiment' for all of us. She is an outcome of 'multiple household decision-making' process.

Pictures
Top - Rara with her mom Juli, auntie Ria (my little sister) and grandpa (Aki in Sundanese). Bottom - Rara with grandma (Nini in Sundanese) and mom, waiting for the doctor.